An article by Chris Jones in Esquire is causing an uproar: http://www.esquire.com/features/women-who-are-bad-in-bed-0412?click=news His article, titled “Ladies: You’re Not as Good as You Think,” is the latest unfortunate salvo in the pointless and never-ending “Battle of the Sexes.” His article basically says “I’m not very good in bed, but most women are even worse in bed than me.” Great, just what we need. Because there aren’t enough articles in the media about how lousy everyone is in bed. Unfortunately, this meme has permeated even the “Evolutionary Community,” where you have sanctimonious “sex coaches” telling us how bad and selfish “most men” are in bed, and how they’re heroically rescuing the female world from bad male lovers, one coaching session at a time. ( Sorry, sex coach guys, as much as I love and support what you’re doing, the “high horse perspective” is so NOT sexy. Time to get off it.) From one standpoint, the author has a point. Yes, the world is full of unconscious, selfish, ego-driven people who, unsurprisingly, have lost the ability to connect with their lovers, and are terribly unsatisfying. And I completely disagree with my brothers in the “Evolutionary Community” that this is entirely or predominantly the [...]
Men, if you want to become better lovers, know yourselves and don’t hold back in connection. There’s nothing to learn, don’t disperse your energy with different women, hurried and hungry. Satiate yourselves in connecting with yourselves alone. Only then go ready towards a woman with total passion, in fullness within. Women see everything when you make love. We do not judge your sexual abilities, but we will be rejecting anything less than love. Consciously or not. Don’t get caught in fear of what you look like as a man. We love you. Just know who you are. That’s all it takes to be the hero, the one, the perfect man. ~ Eirini Oikonomou
I’ve created a spiced tea for myself that’s giving me a noticable tingle of sexual energy. Thought I’d share the wealth, see if anyone else benefits from this. I generally use whole-leaf tea and spices and brew this in one of those teapots that has a strainer (check out your Asian supermarket for stuff like this). The tea consists of holy basil, horny goat weed, Korean ginseng, a slice of ginger root, a stick of cinnamon, black tea, green cardemom pods, peppercorn and cloves. I’m not big on using “exact measurements,” I eyeball it and go according to taste, so play with the combinations and see what works for you. Just add hot water and drink. It really opens up my chi without putting me in an uncomfortable state, like when I have too much coffee. Very enjoyable, and yah, has me feeling pretty damn sexy. Great energy while maintaining my focus and concentration.
My latest podcasting episode is special: http://herotransformation.podbean.com/2012/01/28/podcast-4-feeling-awesome/ Let’s cut to the chase. You can spend years finding bliss or you can start living it now. This podcast, which frankly I’m insane for giving away for free, installs the base state of relaxation and bliss – premanently, naturally. A state you can have forever – relaxation, confidence, sexiness, magnetic attraction – feel it now in this guided meditation. Every time you listen to this, and every time you meditate on this meditation, the state is installed stronger and more powerfully, naturally cleaning out things that get between you and the state of relaxed happiness you deserve. In a matter of weeks, or even days or hours, you can be living in this state of relaxation and radiance, living as an entirely new you. Yes, it is that easy. And free for now. So take advantage and start living the life you deserve.
For those who have purchesed “The Phone Booth,” you know I’ve recommended Aaron Nichols for training in subtle energy, sensuality and sexual enhancement. He’s now offering a broad range of services at his new website: http://www.intimatepath.com/ I continue to recommend Aaron highly and suggest you check out his site and, if you’re inspired, use his services. He has offerings for both men and women and covers a wide range of areas that will greatly enhance your life. This is someone I know personally and can say with complete confidence this is someone who is trustworthy and committed to enhancing your life. He’ll definately do right by you.
http://youtu.be/NWynPn45M_A This video gives a great theoretical/ logical explanation of “the matrix” that keeps us trapped in this cycle of lack and unhappiness. It also explains how problems can be easily solved at “higher levels,” which is exactly what my work does. What you’ll see in this video is that the feeling of lack is not cured by “getting what you want,” it’s only temporarily satiated. “Neediness” is cured at a higher level. In my work, that’s courage, self-acceptance and gratitute, as well as reframing your concept of sexual polarity. The end result is you’re out of that wanting/ gratification/ frustration matrix, you feel happy and free, you’re considerably more attractive and attracting higher energy people into your life. Which means, more rewarding relationships, better sex, more confidence, more joy, more of the things you used to want and no wanting or lack. Sounds pretty good, huh?
I love interesting comments from readers, like the one from Nathan, aka “The Love Shop Man” at (http://stiffcompetition.wordpress.com). I consider myself a “sex-positive” coach and celebrate all the positive expressions of sexuality. My concerns are with what is in the individual’s best interests and leaving the world a better place. I’m certainly not against porn, though my last post on the subject sounded like it – I wrote that a little too hastily. A friend and mentor of mine, Destin Gerek, is in the process of creating some amazing heart-centered adult video that will be very entertaining and educational. (And by the way, if you’re interested in investing in this production, please contact him, as he’s looking for venture capital and this project will make those fortunate enough to invest some very nice money.) I also recommend educational video programs that are very “adult” themed and “pornographic” in nature. And in a positive circumstance, “traditional” porn can be an enhancement. I would also add, the business this reader is in is pretty cool… I’m a fan of sex toys and the businesses that promote and sell them, so I wish this reader well. With all that said, let’s get to [...]
Another article on how addiction to porn can hamper your sex life. A number of sex experts and evolutionary coaches have been coming out lately discussing the negative effects porn has on men. I mention this not in some Bible-thumping “sex is bad” way but that I’ve also observed, firsthand and in others, how porn saps ones energy and decreases your sexual choice. For one thing, porn puts your focus on the visual, away from your body. This means you’re not as connected to your sexual energy, to the subtle pleasures in your body, and, when you’re with a woman, you’re less present and embodied. It also tends to sap men’s confidence as it tends to generate reflexive, gentailly-based orgasms. Apart from erectile dysfunction, porn use also leads to more premature ejaculation in men. All this aside from creating an image of women and sex that is shallow and unsatisfying. Breaking out of the porn habit is often the most powerful step a man can take toward becoming a truly confident man and a great lover. Learning to let go of porn creates more power, more sexual choice, deeper presence, and more enjoyable sex. I’ll have more to say about [...]
Can you imagine living a life of complete choice? What would it look like to be living in a world where you’re actively creating your reality? What would it sound like living a life where you are a cause in the world, not an effect? How would it feel living so peacefully, so carefree, so naturally confident? Because when you are living a life of purpose, and you are connected to the natural power of your essence, you are free from all the bullshit of society, and you are consciously choosing your life. How does it feel to close your eyes and picture yourself in a world like this? All those places in your life where you feel like a victim, where you feel you are at the mercy of others, now you only feel a sense that you are in charge. The feeling of suffering under the yoke of an oppressive, unsatisfying job is gone, because you are connected to that power that comes from knowing you are the master of your career. The feeling that you can’t attract the woman or man you want in your life, or you’re at the mercy of some dysfunctional relationship – gone! [...]
I got a nice post from someone who calls herself “AntiPickUpArtist.” She also shared a blog www.gameovernow.wordpress.com, which I enjoyed reading, though I feel it perpetuates some misconceptions about what most guys who are trying to help other guys in dating are about. On the one hand, I’m 100% committed helping people grow and become the confident, radiant person everyone can be and deserves to be. I see a lot of things and I’ve met a lot of guys in the “Dating Community” who genuinely want to better themselves and to make men the best they can be. And I applaud that effort. And I am also aware that a lot of the criticism of “pick-up” is due to either misconception, fear of the unknown, or a desire by some people (such as professional therapists) to discredit efforts by men to help other men through non-traditional means. Then there’s the usual “Bible-thumper” and “traditional dating proponent” opposition, who see the idea of men becoming sexually empowered as a threat. (Unlike the feminist opposition, these people are also opposed to women being sexually empowered, they just want everyone to be miserable, weak and under their thumb.) Still, there are a lot [...]