Purpose. Dharma. Your highest calling. The divine connection that guides your actions with power and gives meaning to your life. With it, you are literally doing God’s work, powerful, strong, engaged, fulfilled as a man. Without it, you’re like the other shadowy slacker husks of men walking the world, lost in distraction, henpecked by frustrated and unfulfilled women in your life, life going nowhere. There are a lot of guys – boys, really – who have figured out how to “create attraction” and pick up girls. You don’t have to be a real man to get laid a lot, and most of these little pricks out there talking about “alpha male” are walking around with no purpose and no integrity apart from their commitment to get laid and brag about it to others to gain status. And what happens to these guys? Well, the stories are very similar – they get good at picking up women, but often suck at choosing and keeping women. Sure they get laid a lot, which is a big deal if you’re someone whose not getting laid much and feels he has a lack of options, but their lives are filled with drama – [...]
Connection to Dharma
For background on dharma, read these articles: http://www.spiritualselftransformation.com/blog/contentment-or-dharma-spirituality/ http://self-awakening.com/members/this-word-can-change-your-life-dharma http://www.spiritualselftransformation.com/blog/thailand-live-event-greatly-upgraded/ Dharma is, as Rion Freeberg describes it, spirituality and highest purpose. It’s a spiritual awakening that awakens and inspires your heart’s desire. This has been the missing link for me in my process. I’ve felt these higher levels of consciousness, yet nothing meaningful seemed to be changing in my world. I’d feel better, maybe feel more confident and centered, get different results from people, but everything continued to basically stay where it was. As I’ve been going through “The Presence Process,” confronting and releasing long-held blocks, emotions, pain and fear, this concept came to me, and it resonated. I immediately began meditating and natural grounding with this in mind, and could feel a difference. Now dharma is inspiring me. I don’t know what my purpose is, as far as putting it into words, but I feel I am moving on my path, actually moving instead of standing still and simply trying to release the bad stuff while plodding along. I feel energized, empowered, inspired. I have a purpose that extends beyond me to the world, to the universe, even if I’m not sure what it is yet, or maybe [...]
A Man’s Musings on Being a Man – What It Means, What to Do
I began writing this out of frustration over what I’ve been reading from other “experts” giving bad advice for men on how to be men. And as usually happens when I get to writing, the frustration goes away and once I clean that out there’s actually something worth sharing here. But I still want to acknowledge there is a TON of garbage out there on how to be a man. If you’re a man whose evolving and seeking to be a better man, like me, heed the old adage “what other people think of you is none of your business.” Seek to learn from women what women want and need and seek to fulfill their wants and needs from a place of strength and partnership. But when it comes to being a man, seek your truth. Don’t change who you are being for the sake of others’ approval. Be true to yourself, and that’s all I need to say about the bad advice out there. What is it for me to be a man, to connect to my masculine energy? Every day I challenge myself to grow as a man. I explore deepening my connection with my innate masculinity [...]
Thoughts As I Awaken
Problems and blockages are easily resolved at a level higher than the problem. Most of the things that we perceive as challenges are low-consciousness blocks. Trying to resolve these issues at the level reinforces the illusion and is often very difficult. Connecting to essence and source opens one up to higher levels where often the problems simply disappear. For years, I’d toss and turn at night worrying about my job, my family, money, relationships, or some other low-level problems. Inevitably, these “problems” were illusions based on fear and the illusion of disconnection. As I’ve connected to the source, connected to my essence, these “problems” disappear, things start showing up in my life and creative solutions present themselves. There is nothing that requires worry. Connection to essence and source is not an escape from responsibilities but a connection to true power and truth. In this state, one focuses on what needs to be done and “works smarter.” This is where one finds insight and inspiration to do more than take care of mundane business but actually create something amazing. Opening up to the source of life and essence doesn’t create attraction. You are already attractive – attraction and sexual polarity is [...]
Power
I’m feeling this surge of personal power and masculine energy. I got real and I’m facing a long-held fear and limitation head on, with no illusions that I can “NLP” my way out of it. Honest confrontation and real effort coupled with patience, self-acceptance and a knowing I will succeed. And surprisingly, I am seeing this will transform my life completely. And I’ve created an awesome hypnotic script to go with this that’s… I’m amazed at what I can do.
Yang Tea
I’ve created a spiced tea for myself that’s giving me a noticable tingle of sexual energy. Thought I’d share the wealth, see if anyone else benefits from this. I generally use whole-leaf tea and spices and brew this in one of those teapots that has a strainer (check out your Asian supermarket for stuff like this). The tea consists of holy basil, horny goat weed, Korean ginseng, a slice of ginger root, a stick of cinnamon, black tea, green cardemom pods, peppercorn and cloves. I’m not big on using “exact measurements,” I eyeball it and go according to taste, so play with the combinations and see what works for you. Just add hot water and drink. It really opens up my chi without putting me in an uncomfortable state, like when I have too much coffee. Very enjoyable, and yah, has me feeling pretty damn sexy. Great energy while maintaining my focus and concentration.
Finding Peace: Letting Go. Letting it All Go
Have you ever met someone whose truly at peace? You can feel them before you even see them, they radiate this feeling of tranquility. It literally feels good to be around them – so welcoming, so comfortable. You know when you’re with this person they’re not going to lean on you, they’re not going to take from you, or be needy, or whine and complain. They’re whole and complete. They’re happy, and that’s what they radiate. Warm, open, welcoming, radiant, these are the feelings you experience around someone truly at peace. Someone truly at peace, someone centered and grounded, moves through the world with ease. They have nothing to prove, and never seem pressured, no matter what is going on in their life. They notice the world around them and find enjoyment in any situation – they know how to “stop and smell the roses.” Sensual, radiant, beautiful, tranquil – these are some of the words you’ll find yourself using when you meet someone whose at peace. The life of someone at peace seems to flow. Maybe you remember having a day where everything went your way; for someone in this place of peace, life seems to flow. They flow [...]
Is There Such a Thing as a Multi-Orgasmic Man??
Have you heard of this topic of “male multiple orgasm?” It’s a subject growing in popularity on the web and in the self-improvement/ Tantra communities, as well as in men’s groups and the Pick Up/ seduction community. Interest around the idea of a man being able to come without ejaculating, as many times as he chooses, is growing and the book “The Multi-Orgasmic Man” by Mantak Chia has been a top seller for going on a decade now. Until recently, though, the concept has been relegated to the “spiritual” communities and has not found mainstream appeal, probably because most guys found the teachings in books like Mantak Chia’s to not work for them. Lately, a number of men who fall outside of the “woo-woo” communities have been discovering success and finding new and better ways to learn, and teach, how to become multi-orgasmic. I’d include myself in that category of men who are more on the “mainstream” side of the “spirituality community,” and who have discovered this amazing breakthrough. I learned to become multi-orgasmic! And let me tell ya, it’s even more awesome then you’d imagine. The whole “being able to last in bed” part is actually the LEAST of [...]
Porn Revisited – On Porn, Sex, and the Evolving Man
I love interesting comments from readers, like the one from Nathan, aka “The Love Shop Man” at (http://stiffcompetition.wordpress.com). I consider myself a “sex-positive” coach and celebrate all the positive expressions of sexuality. My concerns are with what is in the individual’s best interests and leaving the world a better place. I’m certainly not against porn, though my last post on the subject sounded like it – I wrote that a little too hastily. A friend and mentor of mine, Destin Gerek, is in the process of creating some amazing heart-centered adult video that will be very entertaining and educational. (And by the way, if you’re interested in investing in this production, please contact him, as he’s looking for venture capital and this project will make those fortunate enough to invest some very nice money.) I also recommend educational video programs that are very “adult” themed and “pornographic” in nature. And in a positive circumstance, “traditional” porn can be an enhancement. I would also add, the business this reader is in is pretty cool… I’m a fan of sex toys and the businesses that promote and sell them, so I wish this reader well. With all that said, let’s get to [...]