I came across this recording from Rion Freeberg:
And if you haven’t already, you need to get over to his website and forum: www.self-awakening.com There are a lot of amazing things going on over there that’ll blow open your perceptions.
What he said parallels the reality I’ve been discovering, which is that the whole concept of “social status” is nothing but an invention. It is a story we tell ourselves without any real truth behind it. And it is one of the most common and insidious ways we limit ourselves and our enjoyment of life, and that’s as true for me as it is for anyone else.
Society has created this concept of “social status,” this idea that people are at certain “levels” of social status. Certain people are “cool,” rock stars, actors, certain professions or behaviors, maybe the style of clothing, all these things and other things combine to create this supposed “social status.” We put people on pedestals and afford them things, we’re afraid to talk to certain people, or we disregard others. Basically we give away our power to this thing called “social status.” And it’s confirmed because other people are doing the same thing, which creates this giant groupthink of self-limiting thoughts and behavior.
And that’s the thing – there is nothing called “social status.” I could go put on my NLP cap and bust this myth right off the bat. There’s nothing quantifiable that exists called “social status.” You can’t hold it, you can’t buy or sell it in units, it has no shape, color, weight, it holds no space. If you stand in front of someone who supposedly has “high social status,” you won’t see anything just from looking at the person and being around them. Yes, you’ll see powerful traits that are available to anybody, and which we all possess until we choose to give them away, but there’s no tangible difference between a “high social status” human and a “low social status” human.
As Rion says, the only differentiator is your own reaction. Sure, you say, you notice “other people” giving up their power, so that means they have social status. Okay, but what determines which group of people is more important? It comes down to your own reaction – you internally, based upon your predetermined beliefs and preferences, confer power to groups of people you believe are cool. And since lots of other people share your predetermined beliefs and preferences, you have feedback which convinces you in your mind this is “real.”
But it isn’t. It’s all an illusion. And whether one or a million people see the mirage doesn’t make it any less of an illusion.
The cool mental trick Rion uses is to imagine you’re the producer. Imagine you’re creating the image that will be viewed as “high social status.” You understand the predetermined beliefs and preferences of your target audience and you know what to do to trigger the reaction you’re looking for. Then you set about to program the image – cast the right person, in the right clothing, how this person is styled, what this person is doing, and what images are broadcast to your audience in what timing and manner.
Because when you view it through that lens, the illusion goes away. You’re keenly aware of the matrix others are living in, but you’re not in that matrix, you’re actually creating it.
You ever notice how some people seem completely immune to the social matrix? They follow their own rules, but not in a defiant manner, they simply refuse to give up power or ask for any power from others. They’re really grounded and immune from all the social BS. You might have experienced this person in high school, they didn’t succumb to the pecking order and seemed comfortable around everybody. That’s what it’s like when you’re experiencing the world as the producer and not the consumer.
All this crap about “demonstrate high value” and proving you’re high social status is all about adapting to the matrix. And there’s a subtle undertone that says you’re less or more and that someone else is the arbiter of your value. Again, who decides this? Well, YOU! If you accept that you’re lesser value, then guess what? You are!
Conversely, all the things that someone supposedly needs to do to climb the social ladder all assume there’s a ladder. The truth is the ladder is in your mind. You’ve created this imaginary ladder and put yourself at the bottom, nobody else did this (okay, if you’re in India living in a caste system you didn’t get a choice, but that’s a different conversation). The reason people have to create all this extra work in order to feel more powerful is because so many of us have been conditioned to believe we have to earn our own power by earning the approval of others.
So you can do that, work really hard to climb up that social ladder and over time feel powerful because you’re getting things from other people (respect, sex, friendships) that convince you it’s now okay to feel more powerful.
Or you can… feel powerful right now!
What if you decide, right now, to stop being the consumer of this bullshit sandwich everyone’s eating and decided instead to be the producer? And the rock star you are creating is called your life. And since you’re creating your own matrix, only for the benefit of those who need to see a ladder in their lives, not because you actually believe a matrix exists, you don’t have to worry about getting anyone’s approval or permission, because you’re the one who has all the power and is calling the shots.
If you’re in all your power, are you going to care what any particular woman thinks of you? And since your give-a-shit about what others think is zero, is it going to go up any based on how they’re dressed, or what they do for a living, or who they hang out with, or any of that shit?
Yah, that’s available to you – right now! And here’s what will happen when you’re producing your own life and letting go of that matrix. You’ll see how that concept has been infecting your whole life. Who were those “cool kids” in high school I’m spending all this time trying to out-do now? What was I thinking? I can’t believe I used to be afraid of girls like her, and how everyone is treating her like she’s got supernatural powers – I think I’ll say something totally off-the-wall, have some fun with this.
All those concepts like social anxiety disappear. Because the only reason they exist is because you actually cared about the reaction of others, you assigned it value. You become present, you say and do whatever, you treat reactions as feedback, you don’t take anything personally, and you start having fun.
Another thing that happens – you realize how most people go through the world being satellites in search of something to orbit. People will automatically start accommodating you, and you’ll see “oh, that’s what it’s like to give up your power.
You’ll start looking for partners who you’re actually attracted to and who are naturally attracted to you, because you’ll be connected to the truth about attraction. That truth is that we’re naturally attractive, and naturally attracted to those who are attracted to us. It’s true! All this nonsense about “creating attraction” is a ruse, because that’s like stepping out of the shade and saying “look, I created sunshine!” The reality (and I’ve had many awakenings on this and know this to be true at the deepest spiritual levels) is that sexual attraction is natural and automatic. It’s only our consciousness that creates a disconnect and much of that is related to this “social status” myth.
Which makes the entire social construct around sexuality a joke. You’ll realize that bragging about getting laid is like bragging about the sun shining. That is, unless you’re being the producer, who knows his story is an illusion but tells it anyway to entice his audience to act in the way he wants, which can be for beneficial purposes. If I sell the concept that “keeping your power will get you laid like a rock star,” that’s true (if one is wanting to get laid like a rock star), and I’m consciously selling the bullshit notion of “creating attraction” to entice people to grow. But I’m in control of that story, it doesn’t own me, and I answer to nobody for it.
Alright, I’ve talked this concept pretty good. It’s a difficult reframe because, for a lot of guys, the idea of letting go of that illusion is painful. Those who’ve created themselves at the “bottom” of the ladder what the satisfaction of “getting to the top.” Those at the top want to believe they actually earned some sort of special power. So the hardest part of this is accepting a world without this matrix, embracing that truth, and getting used to the idea that there is nothing to get (which means you won’t get the satisfaction of “getting your way, either”). But once a person feels the freedom and power that comes from letting go of the bullshit and being in one’s power, there’s no going back.