As I was sitting here stewing over my football team’s loss, I had an epiphany. So much of my passion and energy is leaking out, either spent on things beyond my control, going nowhere in fantasy or wishing without action, or wasted on things not serving me. And this energy I’m feeling now is guiding me to a new set of priorities. I’ve been living in this passive “safe zone” in a lot of ways and wasting energy. But now I see it and have the opportunity to make massive change for the better. And for that I’m grateful. Have a beautiful weekend!
I continue to be so very proud of the accomplisments of my amazing son. You can read his latest accomplishment here. This is a kid who at four months was violently abused by his daycare provider. He, his mom and I went through hell, both with regard to his health and the outrageous and incompetent behavior of the government who tried to blame us parents for what happened (they failed miserably, of course, but not until we went through months of needless drama and expense, to try and justify some bureaucrat’s existence). And he continues to suffer the effects today. But that experience was an opportunity for growth and success for him and me. As horrible as this experience was, I’m a better person for having gone through this. It’s been a source of energy for my own transformation. And I’m so proud of Trevor for finding a way to grow from this experience and not letting it define or diminish him. Rock on, Trevor!!
Another article, to keep the conversation going.
This is a great video where Brent Smith talks about how to go about changing your identity. I can tell you from personal experience everything he is saying here is 100% true because… I’ve done it. And I’ve helped others do it. Check out his video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJTP9_iJalQ&feature=youtube_gdata_player
I’m excited about the podcast. If you’re reading “The Phone Booth” or any of my free books (and if you’re not, you owe it to yourself to do so), the podcasts will enhance your progress tremendously. If not, the podcast will still enhance your life – it’s free coaching. I’m noticing it’s beginning to get attention from the podcast listening world, so I want to make sure those of you who are already enjoying my work get in on this, it’s for everyone. And stay in touch through Facebook Follow me on Twitter: @Herotransform8n (easy to remember) And let your friends know about this site, if you like what you’re seeing. I’ve been noticing a healthy bump in traffic, discussion, emails, followers and fans, so the word seems to be getting out. Which means I won’t be the “best kept secret” for long I’m starting some new things and this is going to keep growing. I’m hitting a new stride, so look for more big things here. A lot of change, a lot of growth, which is what I’m about. And if you’re a long-time supporter, I want to make sure you’re a part of this and that you have [...]
I love interesting comments from readers, like the one from Nathan, aka “The Love Shop Man” at (http://stiffcompetition.wordpress.com). I consider myself a “sex-positive” coach and celebrate all the positive expressions of sexuality. My concerns are with what is in the individual’s best interests and leaving the world a better place. I’m certainly not against porn, though my last post on the subject sounded like it – I wrote that a little too hastily. A friend and mentor of mine, Destin Gerek, is in the process of creating some amazing heart-centered adult video that will be very entertaining and educational. (And by the way, if you’re interested in investing in this production, please contact him, as he’s looking for venture capital and this project will make those fortunate enough to invest some very nice money.) I also recommend educational video programs that are very “adult” themed and “pornographic” in nature. And in a positive circumstance, “traditional” porn can be an enhancement. I would also add, the business this reader is in is pretty cool… I’m a fan of sex toys and the businesses that promote and sell them, so I wish this reader well. With all that said, let’s get to [...]
http://www.podbean.com/videoplayer/player/videoplayer320_white.swf?playlist=http://www.podbean.com/podcast-audio-video-blog-playlist2/blogs29/397770/playlist/playlist_video.xml Podcast Powered By Podbean Part one in the transformative coaching podcast series from Hero Transformation’s Rhett Bise. Certified NLP Master Practitioner Rhett Bise offers a powerful “podcoaching” session using NLP and guided visualzation *Learn a powerful and easy technique to become instantly relaxed and present anywhere in any situation *Break through those barriers and make that choice to live the life of your dreams *Experience now the success you will achieve in the future by making this choice *Learn a powerful technique to INSTANTLY place you in a “power state” anytime and anywhere *Practices to integrate and enhance your new learnings so you can use them for the rest of your life This is the kind of coaching people pay big money for and it’s all yours for free, with more to come. Here’s the link: http://herotransformation.podbean.com/2011/10/26/no-excuses-drop-the-bullshit-and-live-your-real-life-episode-1/
Another article on how addiction to porn can hamper your sex life. A number of sex experts and evolutionary coaches have been coming out lately discussing the negative effects porn has on men. I mention this not in some Bible-thumping “sex is bad” way but that I’ve also observed, firsthand and in others, how porn saps ones energy and decreases your sexual choice. For one thing, porn puts your focus on the visual, away from your body. This means you’re not as connected to your sexual energy, to the subtle pleasures in your body, and, when you’re with a woman, you’re less present and embodied. It also tends to sap men’s confidence as it tends to generate reflexive, gentailly-based orgasms. Apart from erectile dysfunction, porn use also leads to more premature ejaculation in men. All this aside from creating an image of women and sex that is shallow and unsatisfying. Breaking out of the porn habit is often the most powerful step a man can take toward becoming a truly confident man and a great lover. Learning to let go of porn creates more power, more sexual choice, deeper presence, and more enjoyable sex. I’ll have more to say about [...]
Can you imagine living a life of complete choice? What would it look like to be living in a world where you’re actively creating your reality? What would it sound like living a life where you are a cause in the world, not an effect? How would it feel living so peacefully, so carefree, so naturally confident? Because when you are living a life of purpose, and you are connected to the natural power of your essence, you are free from all the bullshit of society, and you are consciously choosing your life. How does it feel to close your eyes and picture yourself in a world like this? All those places in your life where you feel like a victim, where you feel you are at the mercy of others, now you only feel a sense that you are in charge. The feeling of suffering under the yoke of an oppressive, unsatisfying job is gone, because you are connected to that power that comes from knowing you are the master of your career. The feeling that you can’t attract the woman or man you want in your life, or you’re at the mercy of some dysfunctional relationship – gone! [...]
I got a nice post from someone who calls herself “AntiPickUpArtist.” She also shared a blog www.gameovernow.wordpress.com, which I enjoyed reading, though I feel it perpetuates some misconceptions about what most guys who are trying to help other guys in dating are about. On the one hand, I’m 100% committed helping people grow and become the confident, radiant person everyone can be and deserves to be. I see a lot of things and I’ve met a lot of guys in the “Dating Community” who genuinely want to better themselves and to make men the best they can be. And I applaud that effort. And I am also aware that a lot of the criticism of “pick-up” is due to either misconception, fear of the unknown, or a desire by some people (such as professional therapists) to discredit efforts by men to help other men through non-traditional means. Then there’s the usual “Bible-thumper” and “traditional dating proponent” opposition, who see the idea of men becoming sexually empowered as a threat. (Unlike the feminist opposition, these people are also opposed to women being sexually empowered, they just want everyone to be miserable, weak and under their thumb.) Still, there are a lot [...]