In opening our minds and our hearts, we need to avoid having our brains fall out in the process. Finding and deepening our spiritual connection is the essence of personal fulfillment. But much like all of the “self-improvement” community, there are more than a few people out there who are not walking the talk and seem more interested in promoting self-serving agendas and making a quick buck than helping people. My first commitment when taking on the mission of helping men discover and embody their inner hero is to make sure I’m serving this mission first. My ultimate measure of success is in how I am helping people to grow – not in how many books I sell, or whether certain “gurus” think well of me. Part of my mission, as I see it, is to call out the people who have set up shop in “noble arenas,” but who are not serving their mission. In doing so, I hope to serve as a voice of caution, a reminder to retain your reason as you seek enlightenment, and to further remind myself to strive for authenticity and rededicate myself to my mission. (If I’m calling out charlatans, that inspires me [...]
Rhett’s Truth #2: Want Real Success? Fix Your “Inner Game” First.
Imagine going through life just feeling “in the flow.” Not just once in a while, but all the time, just feeling “on.” Imagine bringing power, creativity and choice into every aspect of your life – your job, your friendships, your relationships. Imagine being in that place where you’re just giving off that amazing, radiant energy – your true essence. Notice how people are just attracted to this energy. Men look at you with respect, because you “get it.” Women look at you with that look which, up to now, you’d only seen them give the “other” hot guys. And you welcome this attention with a feeling of appreciation and deservedness – this is just a part of who you are, all the time. Imagine being in that place where things just come easy. “Attracting women” is just a natural part of your day, not something you spend hours on message boards and thousands of dollars on “pick-up manuals” to understand. Success in your career is just a given. Powerful, deep, meaningful relationships are just a normal part of your life. You have a life filled with fun, fulfillment and enjoyment. And you didn’t really have to “try” to get any [...]
Food for Thought From Osho
All Personality is false. Good personality, bad personality, the personality of a sinner and the personality of a saint – all are false. You can wear a beautiful mask or an ugly mask, it doesn’t make any difference. The real thing is your essence.” Osho
Guys! Rhett’s Truth #1 – Changing to Attract (or Keep) Women Never Works
Why do you want to change? Who do you really want to be? I’m going to share an insight from my personal journey that may disappoint you: using “inner game” to get women won’t work very well. Changing the way you are on the inside in order to have women be attracted to you will be a lot of work, it will feel unnatural, it will be largely ineffective, and it will leave you feeling frustrated and empty. I’ve got some more potentially disappointing news. Changing who you are on the outside to try and attract women will be even more work, feel even more unnatural, be even less effective and leave you even more frustrated and empty than trying to attract women from the “inside-out.” So “inner game” is only slightly less ineffective than “outer game” at achieving the goal of “attracting women.” And for men in relationships, this applies to you as well. So keep reading. Is all lost? Perhaps. If you are going through the world with the mindset that, first, there is something wrong with you and second, that thing that’s wrong with you is a “lack of women” (or “lack of quality women”), and that [...]
Herotransformation.com is LIVE!
I did it! The books and all the technical/business stuff is done and HeroTransformation.com is up and people are already downloading the free “Transformational Tools” ebook and purchasing “The Phone Booth”… the mind-blowing evolution system for men who want to be the hero we were meant to be. So to get your free copy of “Transformational Tools,” or to dive right in and start you life change with “The Phone Booth,” or to just see what all the fuss is about, go here: www.herotransformation.com In Service, Rhett
Why “Doing Things You Don’t Like” to Get Dates is a Bad Idea
The whole idea of doing things you don’t enjoy in the hopes of “finding someone” will actually DECREASE your chances of ever having success in this area of your life. I’ll illustrate with a recent observation. I was at the park the other morning and a group was doing a yoga class. Ten women, one man. Talk about great odds, right? Er… not really. You see, this guy was clearly NOT into yoga. He was checked-out during the exercises, looked totally out of place, wasn’t enjoying himself (you can be bad at something and, if you’re having fun, still look like you belong there), and just “going through the motions” of yoga. At one point the guy even took a phone call on his cell phone! Finally the instructor had enough and asked the dude to leave. And, as you can guess, the women were not exactly lining up to give their phone numbers to the guy. His problem was, aside from the cell-phone rudeness, he was doing yoga for all the wrong reasons. He wasn’t enjoying himself, he wasn’t centered, he wasn’t present, he was there to “get women”… and as a result, failed miserably, and looked stupid doing [...]
Finding Presence: Noticing When You’re Not Present
Presence – those moments when you are not thinking or doing, but are being. The foundation for authentic living. It is the place from which real and profound transformation can take place. It is where the HERO in you can be discovered and embodied. Presence is a place of peace and fulfillment, where there is nothing to get. You are just being, fully being. And it is here where deep, genuine, juicy connections occur. Powerful attraction comes from a place of presence. It is magnetic. It is sexy. It is where you are meant to be. And often it is damn hard to get there. “How do I find presence?” First, see it as a way of being that is distinct from the ego-driven, thought-driven way you are used to living. Think of it as living as you were when you were a child, before the world dumped worries, fears and negative energy into you. There are many ways to experience presence. The first step is simply becoming aware. Become aware of when you are not being present. Practice Noticing When You’re not Present Throughout your day, notice the times when you’re not being present. Notice when you’re saying things [...]